For the Kids|
You do not ever need to have junk food in your home. If you make a conscious decision to eat junk food, then at least make yourself go out of your way to get it. If you need to walk to the shop to get a chocolate then you may just have a little time to re-consider it. No one is so strong willed that they will not go reaching for ice cream on a stinking hot day. Who wouldn"t be tempted to grab a slice of cake if it"s sitting in the fridge every time you open it? If it"s in your home you will eat it on impulse.
If you really want it, make a conscious decision to eat it, enjoy it and then forget it.
But don"t just grab stuff just because it"s there.
Mothers will often say, "I need to have it there for the kids".
The eating habits of your children will become the eating habits they will carry throughout their lives. Do you really want your child going through what you have gone through? Are you depriving your child of treats or are you depriving your child of adult obesity?
If you were giving up smoking or alcohol, would you leave cigarettes and a bottle of scotch around just in case the kids might enjoy them? Would you reason that just because you are giving up smoking, it’s not fair to make your children go without something they may enjoy?
The habits that kids learn in childhood are the habits they carry for life.
When your 25 yr old son is lying in the Coronary ward of the hospital, are you really going to say, "I thought I was being kind by giving you treats."?
When your 30 yr old daughter is 100 lb overweight and won"t leave the house any more, will you convince her that you were being loving?
Heart disease, Diabetes, Menopause problems, Obesity and Infertility are now being seen in very young people throughout the Western World, doctors will point the finger at one cause: Bad Diet.
Eating habits are usually formed in childhood. Changes will require conscious awareness, alternative reactions, and repetition of new behaviours. Ultimately, your new eating habits will become your new automatic behaviour.
The goal is to get to the point where you do not think about food at all. The amounts of food and the type of foods that you are used to eating are already set habits. The time of day at which you eat is also a habit.
What you may not have explored before are the emotional habits that drive your decisions. Food can pick you up when you are feeling tired or out of sorts.
Food can calm you down when stressed or anxious. Food can replace boredom or loneliness. Food is used as a celebration, a reward, a comfort and an expression of friendship. Food can also be used as a punishment.
Most people do not break their diets because they are hungry. Most diets are broken because of the sense of losing an emotional crutch. In a way, food has become a lifelong friend, often, dieting feels like losing a friend.
To successfully change and maintain a habit, you must know what your emotional connections are and have in place better alternatives. Food is a short-term diversion. Within an hour or two, your stress or boredom will still be there plus the disappointment and remorse of having failed.
Seriously, food does not reduce anxiety. It will mask it for a while, but unless you pin point your issues you will keep yourself in this cycle.
Stress needs to be addressed at the onset, not swallowed at the crisis point.
Don’t eat your anger! Consider this:
Every pound of body fat could well be the weight and shape of last year"s disappointments.
It is easy to associate weight with food and leave it there. Try pin pointing your emotional associations to your weight. An example of this may be loneliness, in which case you would mentally view a kilo of fat as a kilo of loneliness. Imagine seeing resentment, anger, sadness or fatigue attached to your body in the form of twenty kilos of body fat. Psychologically, this change of perception can be really helpful and make dieting much easier. Instead of giving up food, which you think of as a treat, you can think in terms of losing unhappiness by the pound or kilo.
Your body is the most valuable asset you have. It is smarter than any computer. There is no scientist, doctor or chemist able to heal, repair, or protect you like your own body can; it is your home and your vehicle. There is no person and no thing in this entire Universe that will serve or protect you like your own body.
Your life, freedom, happiness, pleasure, vitality, and health are all gifts to you from your body.
The most amazing thing to realize is that most people disrespect and sometimes even hate their bodies. Many people poison their own bodies. Certainly, in our culture we have somehow taken on big fat lies about our bodies.
Stop for a moment right now and consider your attitude to your body. Is there a sense of shame? When you think or speak about your body, is there respect and admiration or self-loathing, criticism and indifference?
If you apply truth and logic, you will know (or you will come to know) that your body is the most fascinating, intelligent, and valuable possession you have.
You may spend most of your income on your houses and cars, yet neither will compare to your own body. You probably design, renovate, and maintain your home with unlimited commitment and yet you won"t consider how little your body asks and how much your body does.
Your body requires air, water, food, sleep and movement - that’s all!
Think about what your body will do for you in return for these few simple requirements. Do you fill your car with sugar? Is your house filled with toxic matter and garbage? How much time, effort, and thought go into the décor of your home compared to your consideration of your own body? Surely you can see the reality of what I"m saying.
How much body disrespect has your weight created? Think about the unloving thoughts and feelings you have directed at your body.
Weight is simply too much body fat kept in storage; it"s no big deal!
Have you ever really stopped to consider the billions of wonderful processes within your body or do you simply focus on fat and divorce your body from yourself?
Lies or B.S., as we affectionately refer to them, are the single most fattening things you ever swallow.
In the past few decades, B.S. has become fact, facts that are rarely questioned.
We have all been conned into believing that our own self-worth is created by how we look, what we do for a living and how much we earn. Advertising, media and marketing have taken over truth and common sense. If there is a buck to be made then the marketing people can convince us of anything. Look at how bombarded we have become with the beauty myth. We starve ourselves, surgically remove body parts, and practise acts of self-abuse in the great quest for beauty.
Be beautiful and you will be happy and valued
Rubbish! Take 2 minutes to think about the 5 most important people in your life.
Consider your reasons for their value,. I am sure that being good looking or thin does not come in to it.
So why are we all knocking ourselves out trying to attain this false beauty? Sit in the centre of any city in the world and watch the people as they pass by. Who on Earth are we comparing ourselves to? Perhaps you may answer that real people simply look like real people. Media beauty is a marketing tool using lights, make up, cosmetic surgery, and airbrushing; get your mind out of the movies and get real. The fact is that you are a magnificent, unique, perfect person right now.
There is a lot of money to be made by others from your belief that you are unattractive, unacceptable or unlovable. Think about it, who in their right mind would buy a $500 bottle of perfume simply to seduce a man? When was the last time you smelled aftershave and were overtaken by sexual desire? We spend thousands of dollars on health spas and convince ourselves that rolling around in mud will make us beautiful. Look in your cosmetic cabinet and see the money
spent on all those potions. Do you look like a movie star? Gosh, not even movie stars look the same as their own pictures!
Think about the books, pills, supplements, club memberships and machinery that you may have purchased to lose weight.
Don"t allow your self-worth to be manipulated by propaganda and clever marketing.
Stop getting caught up in one or two minor imperfections. Change only the things that you yourself decide to work on. Don’t take on other people’s neurotic concepts about yourself.
If you lose weight for your own reasons, with your own values and within your own truth, it will be easy.
When losing weight becomes a gift you give to yourself, because you love yourself, it will be achieved effortlessly and with pleasure.
In summary, I would like to simplify the most important aspects of permanent weight loss maintenance:
1. Make your decisions based on your own truth
2. Choose foods based on high nutritional content
3. Breathe deeply and often
4. Practice creative visualization daily
5. Eliminate or minimize fear, stress and worry
6. Replace eating with the pursuit of other pleasures
7. Observe your emotional responses and habits
Copyright Sonya Green 2005
Author Bio :
Sonya Green. http://www.reinventingmyself.com Sonya is the author of a book called Reinventing Myself, and aslo offer some Guided meditation C.D's focusing on Stress Reduction, Weight Loss, Healing and Personal Growth, How to get what you really want and need.
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