People with conditions sometimes referred to as dissociative identity disorder (DID) often compound their own problems by creating needless suffering in their lives. DID, like all suffering, is a response to pain. People suffering with DID can learn to respond to their pain in healthier ways that help them heal.|
We recently responded to a Facebook wall posting in a DID community, a community for people interested in dissociative identity disorders. We were sorry to hear the woman who posted describe her DID as something that has caused her to suffer. We were concerned that this woman said she hated her DID and alters (alternate personalities).
We responded with the advice we now reiterate for you below…
DID Pain Management
We were sorry to hear you describe your DID as something that has caused you suffering. We were concerned that you say you hate it.
Your own hate and anger in regard to your DID will hurt you even more. In whatever manners you choose to characterize your DID experiences and alters, your own hate and anger regarding them are really reflections of your own self-hate and your own anger towards yourselves.
To end your suffering you must learn to respond to your pain in ways that love and nurture you, all of you.
Pain is a natural part of life, DID does not cause your pain, it is a product of your pain.
Suffering is another product of pain; and, like some forms of DID, suffering is a response we make when we are in pain.
Suffering is created when we respond to our pain by focusing on our pain with anger, resentment, frustration, bitterness, etc...
Suffering is not something thrust upon us willy-nilly; suffering is always something we create for ourselves out of our pain. Suffering is pain we create for ourselves; we compound our own lives with suffering by responding to painful events poorly, by picking at our wounds and making them worse.
We know it can be hard to learn to respond to your pain without compounding it with anger, fear, or resentment. We have lived in constant physical pain for nearly 30 years now, and we still have far to go to learn how to manage our own pain better. However, since we have begun to learn to come to terms with our pain, our suffering has been greatly reduced.
Any form of resistance in our lives creates more pain. Please do not struggle against your DID. Your life is painful enough already without adding to your own pain by resisting it.
We aren"t saying you should give in to your pain, so much as embrace it and accept it. When you find the real roots of your pain and embrace them you will begin your recovery, your life will start to improve.
Whenever we obsess over our circumstances, particularly circumstances we may feel powerless to change, we consume valuable time that might be better spent nurturing ourselves and anyone we love.
We reduce the quality time we can create for ourselves by consuming it with our obsessions with our pain. That is how we create our own suffering.
In addition, the things we may typically feel or say to ourselves when we obsess over our pain tend to increase our feelings of being victims of circumstances beyond our control.
The more often we repeat these feelings and statements that redefine and perpetuate our pain the worse our pain gets because we are resisting it, because we are compounding it by making ourselves suffer.
Worse yet, these cognitive and emotional habits of making ourselves suffer in response to our pain train us to perpetuate our suffering and entrench us in systems of belief that make us feel increasingly helpless.
You are not helpless. You have the capacities to learn to heal your pain and to end your suffering. We hope you will turn the corner ahead where all of this makes more sense to you so that you can begin a new life, a life that is freer of the suffering and torment you create for yourselves in response to your pain.
Once you are able to embrace your pain the real healing begins.
Suffering is a way of distracting ourselves from the real sources of our pain. Suffering is a way of avoiding the real issues underlying our pain. When we embrace our pain we can learn to gently move closer to it, we can learn to see it for what it really is and begin to heal it.
As far as we know, there is no other way for us to heal any of those old wounds that lie at the heart of our pain and all the suffering we inadvertently create for ourselves in response to our pain.
Please empower yourselves to get well by embracing your pain with compassion, nurture, love, and mercy for yourselves, for all of you.
Love, Grigori Rho Gharveyn
Aka Greg Gourdian, Roger Holler, etc…
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